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In this video Sally will give you an introduction to the blog about puberty and manhood.

Puberty - the time of more

Wet dreams

Did you know … 

  • Puberty doesn’t happen overnight.
  • It’s a years-long process involving various physical and hormonal changes — all of which can be uncomfortable to go through
  • Puberty prepares a boy’s body and mindset for manhood
  • Puberty in boys usually begins between the ages of 9 and 12 and lasts for several years.
  • Because there’s such a wide age range, it’s common for two boys of the same age to look really different – one still like a little kid, and the other more like a young adult.
  • The changes are caused by hormones
  • The main hormones responsible for changes are

– Testosterone

– Estrogen

  • These changes can be exciting, confusing, awkward and wonderful.
  • Puberty can be thought of as ‘the time of more’
  • More

– Penis, testicles and scrotum tissue

– Muscle

– Hair – armpits, pubes, arms, legs, chest and face

– Lubricants, like sweat, semen and of course the wet dreams

– Smells and odours

– Oiliness – pimples and acne

– Voice – deeper

– Opinions and attitude

– Etc.

  • Manhood aka the state of being a man ie expressing the distinguishing character or qualities of a man
  • Biologically manhood has life stages divided into

– Infancy

– Puberty (adolescence)

– Sexual maturation (reproductive age)

  • The Stages of Manhood

– Boyhood – figuring out how the world works

– The Cowboy – the unfinished man is looking for his own way in life

– The Warrior – he wants to get things done

– The Lover – realizing the small things in life and what he can bring to others. Looking for a girl to add value to her life.

– The King – earning the fruits of his labour. He can teach other men how to be Warriors and can help them learn how to attract others that they want to attract.

– The Sage – their wisdom helps builds Kings

  • Confucius said

– at 15 men set their heart on learning

– at 30 men find their balance

– at 40 men free themselves from doubt

– at 50 men sense what heaven intends them to do

– at 60 men are attuned to what they have heard

– at 70 men can follow with their heart what their heart desires without overstepping the line.

Male puberty 101

  • Known as the Tanner stages or, more appropriately, sexual maturity ratings (SMRs).
  • They serve as a general guide to physical development, although each person has a different puberty timetable.

Tanner stage 1

  • Typically starts after a boys 9th or 10th birthday
  • Describes what happens before any physical signs of puberty appear.
  • Internal changes, which are the same for males and females.

– The brain begins to send signals to the body to prepare for changes.

– The hypothalamus begins to release gonadotropin-releasing hormone (GnRH) to the pituitary gland,

– The pituitary gland begins to produce luteinizing hormone (LH) and follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH).

  • Physical changes aren’t noticeable at this stage.

Tanner stage 2

  • Puberty usually starts around age 11
  • Marks the beginning of physical development.
  • Hormones begin to send signals throughout the body.
  • The testicles and skin around the testicles (scrotum) begin to get bigger.
  • Early stages of pubic hair form on the base of the penis.

Tanner stage 3

  • Usually start around age 13
  • Physical changes are becoming more obvious
  • A growth spurt in height is also seen
  • Penis gets longer and testicles continue to grow bigger.
  • Some breast tissue may start to form under the nipples (this happens to some teenage males during development and usually goes away within a couple of years).
  • Wet dreams may begin
  • The voice begins to change, it may “crack,” going from high to lower pitches.
  • Muscles get larger.
  • Height growth increases to 2 to 3.2 inches per year.

Tanner stage 4

  • Usually starts around age 14
  • Puberty is in full swing and there are many changes.
  • Testicles, penis, and scrotum continue to get bigger, and the scrotum will get darker in colour
  • Armpit hair starts to grow
  • Deeper voice becomes permanent
  • Acne may start to appear

Tanner stage 5

  • Professor James M. Tanner, a child development expert, was the first to identify the visible stages of puberty.
  • Usually starts around age 15
  • Marks the culmination of teen’s development
  • In this final phase full physical maturation is reached, including the final adult height.
  • Penis, testicles, and scrotum reach adult size
  • Pubic hair has filled in and spread to the inner thighs
  • Facial hair will start coming in and shaving begins
  • Growth in height will slow down, but muscles may still be growing.
  • By age 18, most males have reached full growth.

Tanner Puberty Stages Overview

Stage 1

  • After the 9th or 10th birthday
    – No physical changes

Stage 2

  • Around age 11
    – Pubic hair starts to form

Stage 3

  • Around age 13
    – Voice begins to change or “crack”; muscles get larger

Stage 4

  • Around age 14
    – Acne may appear; armpit hair forms

Stage 5

  • Around age 15
    – Facial hair comes in.

Male Puberty – The Time of More

  • Penis, testicles and scrotum tissue
  • Muscle
  • Hair – armpits, pubes, arms, legs, chest and face
  • Lubricants, like sweat, semen and of course the wet dreams
  • Smells and odours
  • Oiliness – pimples and acne
  • Voice – deeper
  • Opinions and attitude.

Male parts 101

  • The male reproductive system contains

– the external genitals – the penis, testes and the scrotum

– the internal parts – the prostate gland, vas deferens and urethra.

  • A man’s fertility and sexual traits depend on the normal functioning of the male reproductive system, as well as hormones released from the brain.

Organs and functions


  • The organ used for urination and sexual intercourse.
  • It has spongy tissue which can fill with blood to cause an erection.
  • It contains the urethra, which carries both urine and semen.


  • A loose bag of skin that hangs outside the body, behind the penis.
  • It holds the testes in place.

Testes (or testicles)

  • A pair of egg-shaped glands that sit in the scrotum, on the outside of the body.
  • They produce sperm and testosterone


  • A highly coiled tube that lies at the back of the testes.
  • All sperm from the testes must pass through the epididymis, where they mature and start to ‘swim’.

Vas deferens

  • A thick-walled tube joined to the epididymis.
  • It carries sperm from the epididymis up to the prostate gland and urethra.

Prostate gland

  • Is a walnut-sized gland that sits in the middle of the pelvis.
  • The urethra runs through the middle of it.
  • It produces the fluid secretions that support and nourish the sperm.


  • A tube that extends from the bladder to the external opening at the end of the penis.
  • The urethra carries both urine and sperm.

Seminal vesicles

  • 2 small glands above the prostate gland that make up most of the fluid in semen

The Brain

  • Controls the release of sex hormones
  • FSH

– Stimulates the production of sperm

– Levels in men do not change very much

  • LH

– Stimulates the production of testosterone from the Leydig cells in the testes.

Male Parts – What can go wrong?

  • As with any other part of the human body, things can sometimes go wrong with the male reproductive system, including:

– Infertility

– Difficulty urinating

– Prostate disease

– Erectile dysfunction / impotence, the inability to get a satisfactory erection

– Loss of libido / low sex drive

– Hormone deficiency

– Testicular cancer.

From Flaccid to Erect – The Physiology of Erections

  • The penile erection results from complex, central and peripheral neurovascular mechanisms, together with psychological and hormonal factors
  • The balance between these factors is what eventually determines the functionality of the penis.
  • At baseline the penis is in a flaccid state which is maintained by the contraction of smooth muscles and constriction of penal arteries
  • During sexual arousal, induced through erotic visual stimuli and or thoughts smooth muscle relaxes and vasodilation occurs
  • This results in blood flowing into the penis increasing intracorporal pressure as high as >100 mm Hg during full erection
  • The main area of control is the Hypothalamus
  • Dopamine is the most important brain neurotransmitter for sexual arousal and motivation and for sexual performance aka erection
  • Serotonin and Oxytocin also play roles
  • Nitric Oxide is involved in smooth muscle relaxation and vasodilation
  • Noradrenaline is important for the opposite as it is involved in the ‘deflating’ process, this is why chronic stress increases erectile dysfunction

Erectile Tips


  • Be mindful
  • Spend time outside
  • Practice healthy sleep habits
  • Have more fun

Support Dopamine production

  • Limit alcohol/recreational drugs
  • 25-30g animal protein per meal
  • Avoid junk food
  • Exercise regularly
  • Probiotics – BUY HERE 
  • Macuna Pruriens / Velvet Bean for L-dopa 
  • Fish oils for dopamine regulation – BUY HERE

Sperm Production 101

  • A man’s reproductive system is specifically designed to produce, store, and transport sperm.
  • Unlike the female genitalia, the male reproductive organs are on both the interior and the exterior of the pelvic cavity.

– the penis

– the testes (testicles)

– the sperm duct system – epididymis and vas deferens

– the accessory glands – seminal vesicles and prostate gland

  • Sperm production occurs in the testicles and is instigated by FSH – Follicle Stimulating Hormone produced in the Pituitary (the same hormone that is used in female ovaries to get an egg ready).
  • Upon reaching puberty, a man will produce millions of sperm cells every day
  • Sperm cells measure approx. 0.002 inches (0.05 mm) long.
  • In the testicles there is a system of tiny tubes called the seminiferous tubules
  • These tubules house the germ cells that hormones like testosterone turn into sperm.
  • The germ cells divide and change until they resemble tadpoles with a head and short tail.
  • The tails push the sperm into the epididymis.
  • For about five weeks, the sperm travel through the epididymis, completing their development.
  • Once out of the epididymis, the sperm move to the vas deferens on their way to the prostate gland.
  • When a man is sexually stimulated, the sperm are mixed with seminal fluid
  • Seminal fluid is a whitish liquid produced by the seminal vesicles and the prostate gland to form semen.
  • As a result of the stimulation, the semen, which contains up to 500 million sperm, is pushed out of the penis (ejaculated) through the urethra.
  • The process of going from a germ cell to a mature sperm cell capable of egg fertilization takes around 2.5 months / 74 days.

Ejaculation 101

  • Orgasm and ejaculation are two separate physiological processes.
  • Orgasm is an intense transient peak sensation of intense pleasure creating an altered state of consciousness
  • Ejaculation is a complex physiological process heavily controlled by the autonomic nervous system
  • Consisting of two main phases:

– emission

– expulsion.

  • The main organs involved in ejaculation are the:

– distal epididymis

– vas deferens

– seminal vesicle

– prostate

– prostatic urethra

– bladder neck

The physiology of Ejaculation


  • Closure of bladder neck prevents retrograde spillage of the seminal fluid into the bladder.
  • Ejection of the acidic prostate secretions into the prostatic urethra.
  • Fructose-containing seminal vesicle fluid alkalinizes the final ejaculatory fluid.
  • The seminal vesicle fluid constitutes 75%–80% of the seminal fluid.
  • The organs involved in the ejaculation process receive both sympathetic and parasympathetic nerve stimulation.
  • Noradrenaline from the sympathetic nervous system play the predominant role in the ejaculation process.


  • The process of ejaculation climaxes, and refers to the ejection of semen through the urethra
  • The semen is propelled through the rhythmic contractions of pelvic and prostate muscles
  • What initiates expulsion is still unknown

– maybe initiated when nerve activation threshold level is met.

Thought to be Good For

  • sleep
  • sperm quality
  • immune system
  • migraine symptoms
  • reducing the risk of death from heart disease
  • reducing the risk for prostate cancer.

Wet Dreams 101

  • Scientific name: nocturnal emissions
  • Also known as sleep orgasms
  • Are entirely normal, natural, and healthy part of puberty and typically occur during REM sleep
  • REM sleep rapid eye movement – dreamland
  • During REM sleep all voluntary movement is impossible ie you’re paralysed – only eyes are moving and blood flow is increased throughout the body including the genitals, making them more sensitive.
  • Wet dreams are spontaneous orgasmic sensations which occur without manual stimulation from sexual activity
  • In other words a wet dream is when you ejaculate or secrete vaginal fluids during sleep
  • Most people have them and they’re a perfectly healthy part of sleep.
  • Naming it a wet dream implies its related to a sexy dream, where in reality they can happen without a clear cause.
  • However research has found that, on average, 8 percent of dreams have some sexual content
  • You may wake up during a wet dream or sleep through it and only realize you had one when you wake up feeling wet down below
  • Most common in teenage boys going through puberty, but all sexes and genders can experience sexual responses during sleep
  • A common myth is that wet dreams are a sign of youth, while they are more infrequent as you get older they can still happen
  • The reason why they are less frequent is not clear

– maybe hormone levels aren’t out of control as in puberty

– maybe being more sexually active as an adult

  • However it’s still an area of unknowns
  • Not everyone will have a wet dream – some may have a few, while others may have a lot
  • NB! sleep orgasms, like all other orgasms, are super individual, there’s no right or wrong way to have one — or maybe 2 or 3 or 4.




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